All That You Need to Know About Porn, Sex, and Love Addiction

Most persons assume that addiction is exclusively dependent on illicit drugs or substances like alcohol. However, in reality, addiction comes in many forms, including psychological dependence. This illness can manifest on other items of interest or objects of obsession.

Addiction to Sex, Porn, or Love

Addiction is a mental illness affecting your brain. The patient can become addicted to almost anything or even any specific person. This is why there’s such a thing as being addicted to love and sex as well as porn.

The illness of addiction manifests itself in terms of love and sex dependence as well as porn obsession. Just because it doesn’t involve drugs, it doesn’t make such hyper-focused impulsive behaviors any less destructive or harmful to the patient in question.

Comparison Chart

The chart below compares the different love-themed, copulation-centric, or relationship-related process addictions.

Addictions Related to Procreation and Relationships Signs and Symptoms Treatment in Rehab
Love Addiction

If you can’t function without having a partner such that it’s starting to get in the way of your normal life then you might be addicted to love.

Even if you get stuck in toxic relationships, your addiction to love might compel you to stick it out.

Rehab for love addiction mostly involves helping you love yourself and teaching you to stop being too codependent on others to validate your worth.

You will be taught how to be a strong independent individual who’s comfortable with being single and who doesn’t need a boy/girlfriend, partner, or spouse.

Sex Addiction Simply put, sex addiction is when someone is obsessed or dependent on having sex or getting sex, usually to the point of unhealthy promiscuous behavior, extramarital affairs, cheating, or porn addiction.

Reframing how you deal with stimuli and the need for validation through sex by psychological therapy is a must.

Learning how to function as a single person and establish a healthy romantic relationship would come later.

Porn Addiction

Last but not least is addiction to pornography, which can be in the form of pictures or videos.

Most people have a hard time to get sex or even establish relationships, particularly those who are socially awkward or have social anxiety.

Entering into a healthy romantic relationship won’t automatically fix a porn addiction.

Mitigation can come in various ways, from abstinence to focusing on other aspects of your life that could lead to fulfillment.

Addiction to Love

Love addiction, as opposed to sex addiction, is characterized by the patient’s obsession or compulsion towards being in a relationship in order to attain fulfillment. Avoiding being single in and of itself isn’t harmful.

However, a dependence to be codependent on another person like a spouse or a boyfriend/girlfriend/lover can result in undesirable consequences that affect the mental healthiness of the person in question.

  • An Overwhelming Need to Feel Loved: Those who are addicted to being in a relationship and have a great aversion to being single often have an overwhelming need for love to the detriment of themselves and their loved ones—especially the object of their affection.

    If you’re someone who goes to extraordinary lengths—like crime, constant lying, or coercion—to search out love or maintain a current relationship that’s on the rocks, then you might be addicted to love..

  • Bending Backwards for Someone: While the concept of going to extraordinary lengths in order to win over someone you’re romancing has itself been romanticized in cinema and TV, it doesn’t quite work in real life. Ditto when it comes to pleasing partners.

    In fact, the love addict might instead come off as needy if they go out of their way in order to please a loved one even if it compromises their own wellbeing and needs. Manipulative people who don’t really love them might even take advantage of this tendency.

  • Staying in Toxic Relationships or Contaminating Healthy Ones:Those affected with love addiction and an innate fear of being alone and single might become obsessed with the idea of being in love to the point of entering multiple relationships.

    They might even fail at forming strong bonds and establishing intimacy with another due to their love obsession. They’re more focused on being in love than loving a partner. They might also stay in toxic or destructive relationships due to dependency or codependency.

  • Dependency or Codependency:A relationship might become toxic or could be toxic from the start if one or both of the partners end up having difficulty being on their own or functioning on their own. They’re too dependent upon each other.

    They might end up sticking around destructive relationships filled with physical or mental (verbal) abuse because they literally can’t exist without the other (codependency) or one of them is too dependent on the presence of the other to function (dependency).

  • Treatment of Love Addiction:When undergoing process addiction therapy and rehab treatment, the patient will be taught how to function independently as a single person instead of being overly obsessed in seeking validation through their relationship.

Psychological and psychiatric treatments such as Mindful Meditation, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Group Therapy, Counseling, and even more esoteric treatments like Zen Buddhism all collectively help in reframing your mind to more constructive behaviors that develop healthier relationships in the long run.

Here are the symptoms of being a love or relationship addict who fears being single or alone.

  • They might make major sacrifices to please their loved one.
  • They might stay in a toxic or abusive relationship to be in one.
  • They might never feel satisfied with their current relationship.
  • They might develop an obsession or over-reliance on their partner.
  • They feel like there’s a constant need for them to be in a relationship.
  • They tend to form or stay in relationships for the sake of being in one.
  • They might suffer from severe depression or develop destructive behavior after breakups.
  • They might become possessive and jealous when their partner talks to or spends time with other people.
  • They might commit to or fall in love with someone without knowing them on a personal or intimate level.
  • They might constantly move from one relationship to another in order to search for the nebulous concept of “true love”.
  • They could isolate themselves from friends or neglect their personal finances and responsibilities just to be with their lover
  • They could end up neglecting their own needs and the needs of their family in order to maintain their romantic relationship.

Addiction to Sex

Sex addiction has a multitude of manifestations. However, it basically refers to any out-of-control sexual activity or promiscuous behavior that could lead to negative consequences in your daily life due to overdependence.

In today’s liberated world, many previously taboo sexual activities—including being swingers, hook-up culture, or having multiple sexual partners—have become more accepted as ordinary activities among consenting adults. There is a line you could cross though that leads to sex becoming sex addiction.

  • Deep Shame and Guilt: Those who recognize that they’re having too much sex to the point of dependence even in a culture of sexual freedom and liberation will tend to feel deep guilt and shame. This goes double for those raised in conservative environments.

    The U.S. in particular is a nation built from conservative and puritanical forefathers, resulting in a culture of repression and mockery over promiscuity. If you’re addicted to sex, you can’t help yourself and it should instead be treated healthily instead of with repressive shaming tactics.

  • Fear of Judgment or Mockery: Those who are addicted to sex might view that there’s nothing wrong with their promiscuous behavior the same way alcoholics believe they don’t have a drinking problem because drinking (moderately) in and of itself is socially accepted.

    However, admitting that you’re a sex addict and that you can’t control your libido to the point of being a “nymphomaniac” or “sex pest” can lead to judgment or mockery from your peers. This also delays them from seeking help.

  • Chasing the High of an Orgasm: Like with any other addiction, a sex addict simply can’t get enough of sex and believe this is a healthy behavior until the negative consequences start piling up. Their addiction can also lead them to resort to extreme and risky behaviors to chase the high of an orgasm.

    This process addiction is an attachment disorder wherein the patient becomes overly dependent on getting sex, as though the act is their only source of validation from others. It roots from the individual’s mind frame.

  • Serious Consequences:A sex addict could end up facing serious consequences from their actions. In particular, they might fail to find a balance between work and life. They could also fail to maintain a healthy relationship for a reasonable period of time.

    Sex between two consenting adults in moderation is mostly harmless and legal. When it goes to the point where one of the adults isn’t consenting, that’s breaking the law. This is also the case when someone commits sex with a minor that cannot consent to sex by law.

  • Treatment of Sex Addiction:Like with love addiction, counseling will mostly be about reframing your attitudes towards sex and validation through it. It could be a huge help if you find your bliss elsewhere aside from getting your rocks off with a partner, a prostitute, or pornography.

A measure of abstinence is also in order to destroy your self-destructive habits involving promiscuous behavior, getting as many sexual partners as you could, or resorting to porn and adult toys in order to fulfill your sexual desires. Moderation and treating yourself with more respect is the key to proper treatment

Here are the characteristics of sex addicts or the symptoms of sexual addiction and its distinct associated behaviors.

  • They obsessively think about sex.
  • They engage in excessive porn use.
  • They engage in risky sexual behavior.
  • They have numerous sexual partners.
  • They engage in excessive masturbation.
  • They might avail of the services of prostitutes.
  • They excessively use sex chat line and webcams.
  • They try to mitigate lust or desire to get sex but can’t.
  • They use more extreme forms of masturbation, sex, and pornography.
  • They neglect financial and personal responsibilities in favor of sexual proclivity.
  • They have numerous affairs while committed to a supposedly monogamous relationship.
  • They require more sexual activity or extreme forms of sex in order to feel the same pleasure as before.
  • They continue to engage in sexual activity even if it causes them problems at home, school, or work life.
  • They’re unable to experience intimacy with a partner because it doesn’t produce the desired pleasure levels or induces feelings of shame and guilt.

Addiction to Porn

Pornography has always been around humanity. Its existence has always been controversial as well, along with sex work. There are people who have zero interest in it. There are even those, usually women, who tend to feel offended by its existence and how it perpetuates the culture of objectifying womankind.

Others occasionally partake in it, and even some end up regularly “using” it to satisfy their sexual needs. These single or married people, usually men, tend to resort to using porn in order to fulfill the most unfulfilled part of their life, which is their (nonexistent) sex life.

  • What Causes Porn Addiction?It’s hard to say why viewing porn can lead to addiction in some and healthy moderated “usage” in others. Probably the same reason why some alcohol consumers become alcoholics while others remain social drinkers.

    It usually starts with you looking at porn because of its current mass appeal, widespread free access on the Internet, and how watching it seems harmless enough. You might enjoy the rush porn gives you to the point of wanting to make porn videos of your own with your sex partner.

  • It Starts with the Rush:There are others, both socially awkward single men who can’t get dates and those who could, might end up enjoying the rush porn gives. They might find themselves wishing for more of that rush more and more.

    The repressed members of society might even find porn viewing taboo enough to excite them, like they’re doing something forbidden (and exciting) even as the more liberated find it as not a big deal and part of growing up.

  • Process Addictions and the In-the-Moment High: The in-the-moment high you get from excitedly watching porn in your lonesome or with a sexual partner can be so irresistible that you might make porn viewing a habit.

    Every time your libido acts up and you’re unable to find a sex partner to curb your growing sexual enthusiasm, you might end up using porn instead to let off some steam. Moderated usage is fine or even healthy but behavioral addictions usually happen when you start making things like porn viewing a habit.

  • Treatment of Porn Addiction:Even the healthiest of couples can end up with one partner or both of them suffering from porn addiction. To treat it, they need to reevaluate their life, develop self-awareness of their tendencies, and strive through gradual or sudden abstinence.

Most porn addicts don’t seek validation through masturbating to porn, which is in contrast to some sex addicts who do validate themselves by the amount of sex they get. To kick the porn habit, finding sexual fulfillment by a partner or by personal fulfillment should help mitigate this potentially destructive vice.

Your viewing and reading habits should be a cause of concern for you if you engage in the behaviors listed below. To wit, porn addicts are known for the following.

  • They’re unable to enjoy sex without watching porn first.
  • Their amount of time spent watching pornography keeps growing in length.
  • They have trouble getting turned on or having an erection with a real sexual partner.
  • They’re unable to resist watching or reading porn even to the point of life disruption.
  • They feel guilty about the consequences of viewing porn, such as shaming and ostracizing by their peers.
  • If they’re in a relationship or they’re married, their porn consumption might lead to a strain in their relationship.
  • They insist their spouse or partner view porn or act out their porn fantasies despite the partner’s discomfort or dissent.
  • They spend hours browsing online porn, even if it ends up reducing their sleep time or cutting in on their everyday responsibilities.
  • They feel as though they require a porn “fix” or regular doses of porn in order to get a “high” over it that includes masturbating till orgasm.
  • If they’re single they might use porn as their primary means of sexual fulfillment at first, only to end up doing it even when they don’t feel like it later on due to dependence.

In a Nutshell

The correct treatment for porn, sex, and love addiction—under the umbrella of process addictions—can be quite the challenge to search for in light of their sensitive nature. They’ve often overlooked compared to alcoholism and narcotics addiction treatment.

Miracles Asia ensures patient preparedness after 30 days or more as well as treatment of process addictions dealing with love, sex, or porn. They address the behavioral patterns of process addictions and how a change of mind frame can do wonders to kicking such obsessive habits.

Why Miracles Asia Rehab Is Among The Best in Asian Rehab

Miracles Asia Rehab is among the best in Asian or Thailand rehab and is one of the most trusted rehab centers in the Asian rehab scene. It’s because it has helped even the most unprepared patients who indulge in excessive porn, sex, and love towards becoming relapse-resistant, better adapted individuals.

Thankfully, places like Miracles Asia offer a comprehensive treatment and rehabilitation program for these specific addictions. They approach inpatient rehab of process addictions in a careful, methodical, and step-by-step manner, and have helped hundreds of people get their life back. Contact us today to find out more.